Friday, February 26, 2016

Friday Frolics: Sex as a character tool

Fabulous Friday has arrived!

Sorry, excited that I didn't have to get up at the crack of dawn on a Friday...or maybe that should be excited because I don't have to get up at the crack of dawn on Friday, only because I'm writing this up Thursday evening. It's a strange thing writing posts before anyone will read them.

Before I ramble too much let's get to today's musings...How can/do you use sex as a character development? Show a character's personality/traits?

A person's approach to sex is an integral element of their personality; their attitudes to sex help demonstrate who they are. Because showing is more dramatic than telling, sex scenes are a powerful tool for showing character. How a person behaves in a sexual encounter tells us if they are respectful or disrespectful of other people or if they are passionate or dispassionate. During sex we learn if a character is totally self centered or truly interested in the pleasure and well-being of their partner(s). A person who sees sex as an important bond between two people is a totally different character from one who sees sex as strictly an avenue for pleasure.

Naturally, these are only polarized descriptions of character qualities--most humans, most characters who come alive, are a mix of these. The balance shifts from time to time and situation to situation, and as a person learns about themselves and life. As a result, well-written sex scenes can show character development--shifts in who they are as they grow darker or move toward the light.

Sex absolutely can be used for developing a character, both the hero and the villain. In my upcoming novel Pennington's Conquest, sex is a major device for showing the callous nature of the main villain. He uses his sexual conquests as a simple release and show of power. In one of my many works in progress, I use sex to show the growth of the main character and how far the relationship had come from just a power play to true love and commitment.

The willingness of characters to do things they otherwise wouldn't do or consider during sex can show a significant shift, either in personality or development, and in romance, especially erotica, can make or break the story. A partner willing to bottom for the first time to show their love for or to keep the man they care for. A wife finding new ways to thrill her husband. A husband willing to try toys or role play to keep his wife interested and excited. Spice up the bedroom to spice up the romance!

I would say the sex in my stories show the love and trust between the parties in question. This does go a long way to indicate who they are to each other, but because of my style of story...short and won't run across anyone like a user or villain. Maybe in a future story to show how trust was built or rebuilt. But with something so intimate it will give the reader something of the character.

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