Thursday, October 10, 2013

The Many Levels of Intimacy - #Hot&Bothered #MIHBlog #Erotic

First, let me apologize for being late. I'm on vacation and more jet lagged than expected so it took me a while to get it together this morning.

When thinking about what I wanted to write this month for Hot & Bothered Thursday really gave me pause. Everyone has their own definition of what it means as do myself. So I decided to speak to the concept itself.

Being mainly, an erotic writer I write to all the levels of sensuality. Every story requires something different but in every one I have ever written the levels of intimacy remain the same. There are many great articles written on this subject with good reason. For us, the romance writer be it erotic or sweet or sensual, how people fall in love are basically the same.

Writing love scenes is imperative that you have these steps. There is also a lot to be said about body language, which says more than words ever can. All of the steps are important and even though you might be able to skip a step or have it happen outside the scope of a story, for the most part all these steps need to happen to get your reader invested in the story.

It is also important to note that the love scenes can make or break a novel.

How I am going to approach this will be a little unconventional. First, I'm going to list out the different steps here. Then next month, we will go over a couple of the steps in detail with examples from Muse It Hot books. I've done this before in this column but not to the level of detail I intend with the next few columns. Many of us are visual and I plan to give stunning examples of what each of the steps really mean.

Here are the eleven steps of intimacy:

1 ~  Eye to body
2 ~ Eye to eye
3 ~ Hand to hand
4 ~ Hand to shoulder
5 ~ Arm around waist
6 ~ Mouth to mouth
7 ~ Hand to head
8 ~ Hand to body
9 ~ Mouth to body
10 ~ Hand to genitals
11 ~ Genital to genital

Again, not every one of these steps have to be present for a novel to be great. Each step is a sensual journey and needs to be approached that way. As an author, we need to remember what each step entails and how to make it easy for us to write and memorable for each reader.

See you next month as we continue our journey to Hot & Bothered...have a great month!


Lynn Crain has penned over 25 novels in romance in the genres of science fiction, fantasy and contemporary romance, erotic to tame in nature. She always knew that writing was her calling even if it took years at other professions to prove it. She has belonged to EPIC and RWA for more years that she cares to think about. Currently, she lives in Europe while her husband of nearly 30 years pursues his dream of working internationally. Her state-side home is in Nevada where family and friends wait patiently for their return. You can find her hanging out at A Writer In Vienna Blog ( and various other places on the net (;; ). Still, the thing she loves most of all is hearing from her readers at


Anonymous said...

Wow, Lynn...great post and a super reference;) Thanks so much for sharing:)

Lynn Crain said...

You're very welcome, Kay Dee. I'll be making a few minor adjustments to the column as I realized I was really jet-lagged. LOL!

Thanks for stopping by.