Friday, September 23, 2016

Friday Frolics: What's too much

Happy Friday!

It's officially Fall. Anyone else consider it Fall as soon as it becomes September, or is that just me?

Before we get to this week's topic, here's what Stan had to share from last week's question: When writing a bedroom scene, do you leave the bedroom door open or closed, and why?... Friday Frolics: No just for the bedroom

In response to my own question, I leave the bedroom door open. There are readers who prefer the bedroom door closed, even for erotica or erotic romance, but there are those who prefer it open. (At heart I think most of us are voyeurs to a certain degree.) Sex is good, it is wonderful, and when you are with someone you love, it is fantastic! So why not leave the door open? I think there are few things more enjoyable, from a reading perspective, of seeing/reading of two people enjoying one another.  As for where to write the scene, why does sex have to be limited to the bedroom? When you were in love and recently married, did you really restrict your sex to just the bedroom? Or did you and your spouse enjoy each other in a variety of places, to include the living room, the kitchen and the bathroom? So, why restrict the writing to one location when in real life, it takes place in a variety of places? And, that's about it. Thanks!

What's been asked of our Musers this week is...what's too much...hmmm, can anything good ever be or have too much ;)

It is hard to say when something is too much. It depends on the story and what the situation calls for. I'm not one to write about bodily fluids other than semen, sweat, and saliva, but some genres do call for others. Some also call for a more aggressive form of sex, though writing about forced unwanted sex in full description would constitute too much for my writing. For erotica, too much could also relate to the fine line between sensuality and porn. The sex should have emotion and relevance to the plot instead of vivid descriptions of the sex act making no sense to the storyline. I do love a good sex scene, but it has to make sense in the context of the story. If there's no what happens afterward, it's porn and should stay on the blue screen.

First you need to know if you're writing erotic/erotica or porn. I won't go into the difference as each have their own audience. I write erotic/erotica, now I need to know where my writing falls under this general genre...straight, gay, lesbian, swingers, group, fetish, others I don't know about, let alone all the other story genres. I write about a couple who engage with others. Guess you could say as generic as erotica can get?

For me, anal would be too much. Heavy BDSM...yup, I don't know enough to handle this. To be honest, M/M may be too much for me...not that I can't get the relationship emotion, it's the action I'm afraid of messing up.

Too much comes from the writer's comfort and ability. The reader will always go for what interests them.

Thank you for dropping over, we appreciate it. Have a fun weekend and hope to you see next week.
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Wednesday, September 21, 2016

She Wants/He Wants: The Cave Debate


The Man Cave. The Den. The Sports-room.

Why can’t a woman have her own cave? Why are we delegated to the bathroom? The kitchen. A nook. The bedroom.

Sure, he gets a room specific to him. We get a “special” use of a common room.

Really, we sooooo want to relax and think sexy thoughts in a container of hot water smelling the toilet’s auto-disinfecting cleanser.


You expect me to get thrilled about a dungeon. Locked away in the dark basement or cement garage. Something that reeks of socks and farts. A place no one ventures into.

How come we can’t have the bedroom? Or the living room? No, go to the cave; we’re underfoot, messing up the just cleaned room.

Damn, why does everything have to smell of lemon and flowers?

Monday, September 19, 2016

Mistress Musella: The Art of the Flirt

When was the last time you smiled at some one? Gave them an acknowledged look and not the non-seeing glance. Stranger. Man or woman. A couple?


You don’t remember?

Why? They would think you’re hitting on them. Get the wrong idea.

And, what’s so wrong with any of those reactions? Maybe, you’ll make them smile; feel good about themselves. Happy.

Maybe you’d trigger a “naughty” thought or two…three.

Flirting doesn’t mean – go get laid. It doesn’t mean you want to f___ the person. It’s all about the fun. The playful nature we forgot once we grew up.

Sure, it will have a sexual feel – given the right age. However, that feel is for us alone. Oh, and anyone we care to share it with.

Maybe that flirt is the one to share it with?

Go ahead.




Oh, was that a blush?